When my darling and I got together, we came from broken relationships. Both of us left the homes we had both built over the years. We did not have the division of property senario that comes from divorce.
I left the home I had lived in for thirty years and moved into furnished rented accomodation. My heart, soul and mind were battered and material things were the last things on my mind.
My darling went to work in Saudi Arabia in 2004, to earn fabulous money to clear the debt's of his marriage. He came back to Britain a divorced man. Debt had just been a visible symptom of a broken relationship that did not survive the repair efforts.
When we got together, we were both working on clearing debts, both had realised that material things do not mean a thing. Both believing if you have love you have everything.
Forward to this week...
Here we are, in our little Shoebox which is approximately 50 feet by 14 feet. It has a living room, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom. We have two sheds in the back garden, one being my craft shed. The Shoebox and the sheds are full to bursting, oh and we also have self storage 10 minutes from home.
The spat we had on Wednesday was about all the Stuff we have accumulated over the four years we have been together. It is taking over, suffocating us...So what happened???
We are very fortunate in that we now have no debt's and both have decent jobs and can both afford to buy within reason, anything that takes our fancy. We have taken a fancy to far too much...
So a major declutter needs to be undertaken, I could open a shop with all the books and magazines, how many sets of bedding does one couple need?
How many cd's can one listen too, especially when you like silence?
85% of the stuff that is clogging up this house is due to me. I am trying to work through why I need so much stuff, I don't need it, but enjoyed buying it.
Why did I enjoy buying it?
Because I could!!
As a child I was Secondhand Rose, very rarely getting anything new.
As a young wife and mother, there was no money left for little luxuries or treat for me.
Four children in under five years and a low income saw to that and at the time it didn't matter.
As the children grew up there was never enough money. As was and is the case now with young families.
So now I am able to spend and buy whatever and it has gone crazily to the other extreme.
The pleasure of shopping and not having that knot in the pit of my stomach knowing I can't afford to buy, has been a real pleasure. Now though it has made our home cluttered and uncomfortable.
So it stops here and it stops now.
I want space back in our home.
I want serenity back in our home.
I want JOY back in our home.
There is so much love in this home that JOY is wanting to dance.
JOY and dancing need the space, so I am off to clear the space.